Weddings and marriages
It's true, "the spouse you wed may be yourself", but don't jump to conclusions! Maybe someone else is smiling in their sleep next door, or in a village around the world. Or in some other universe, as traditional shamanism insisted. Maybe you do marry spirits from another realm, who give you weird news, weird powers. Who knows?
Anyway, you may have made a long-distance friend. Don't make the error so many people do awake, of seeing your spouse as just a part of you. The classic psychological interpretation has uncomfortably close parallels to sexism, to taking your mate for granted as your other half. S/he may be more complex than that. Certainly the one dream figure I married--several times, in different guises, but definitely all one person--was far more multifaceted than a classic anima. Your dream-spouse may be too.
A lot of my marriage dreams are also a non-classical type--I dream of someone else's wedding. This could of course still be about me, but why do such dreams make a point of dragging in others? At the very least, look around your waking life to see if such a dream refers to someone else. They don't have to be literal--maybe a wedding means a business merger is "a marriage made in heaven", or a friend's found the right community or job at last... but at least consider the possibility the dream's poking you to put friends together and see what happens. Dreams are a call to action. Even, sometimes, matchmaking--romantic or not.
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|ARIANE'S HONEYMOON: by Wayan; 1986/4/11, a dreamlet meant to shock; chapter 2 of UNICORN TAG, a set of nine linked dreamtales.
I'm happily married to a childhood crush of mine. Till she talks to my sister, and I overhear what she really thinks of......
CAUTION: SEX TALK
|BIGAMIST: by a Carolina waitress; 1945, a telepathic dream
A sad, frail, very pregnant woman with dark brown hair told me she was my boyfriend's wife. The next day...
|A BODICE RIPPER: by Carla Young, 2010/2/22; epic (and episodic) dream with 5 paintings
Awkward newlyweds. Not a love match! Can they learn to work together to save a woman from the Nazis?...
|BOGNOR MARRIAGE: by Thomas Hood; 1825; a newlywed nightmare
I found a honeymoon cottage by the sea, and the old landlady gave me a very reasonable rate. Everything was fine...
|BYRONíS DREAM: by Lord Byron; 1816, a dream of a love denied
An epic dream on the lifelong effects of unrequited love, compressed into seven stanzas...
|THE COUPLE AND THE MOTHER: by Jenny Badger Sultan, 1970, watercolor of a lost dream.
I no longer have the text of this dream, but its image anticipated and prepared me for my actual marriage...
|CRUISE: by "Michelle", 1990s; a recurrent predictive dream
I never go on cruise ships but I keep dreaming I'm on one and meet the same man, and marry him--or his brother...
|DON'T WANT HIM TO SOAR: by Wayan; 1991/4/18, a dream of sabotage.
In a parallel world, a visionary's building the first plane only now. I'm his assistant. But I don't WANT...
|F.I.P: by Dr A (c.1947), a Cambridge man (1960?), a London girl (c.1916) and a Midlands mum (July 1958)
Examples of inexplicable moods that appear (after the fact) to be reactions to future events...
|FIRST NIGHT IN FIJI: dreamed May 1980 by S---; an unheeded warning dream
Far from home, about to wed a man I barely knew, I dreamed I was a lion in an open cage I dared not leave...
|THE FOREST BRIDE: by Jenny Badger Sultan; 1994/7/23 & 1994/12/10; twin solstice dreams of marriage and death
In the midsummer dream I'm at a wedding in the Russian forest; that winter, I hold an emaciated girl as she breathes her last...
|FRACTURE SPEEDS MARRIAGE: by Wayan; 2001/1/1, a dream of advice on health and romance.
A baseball star breaks her leg (with a little help from the other team). It delays her career but but speeds her marriage. Did she NEED a....break?
|GUARDIAN GHOST: by an Oklahoma girl; 1919, a dream (?) of ghostly advice
I dreamed my late stepdad warned me to stand by my mother--she'd be in trouble and people would gossip and blame her...
|GUDRUN'S FOUR HUSBANDS: by Gudrun Osvifursdottir; summer 988, 4 childhood dreams predicting Gudrun's life; plus a dream by her husband Thorkell Eyjolfson, spring 1026.
Gudrun dreams of four treasures lost: a hood, a bracelet, a ring, and a jeweled helm. Her cousin sees these as 4 marriages...
|HE REMARRIED: by an Iowa divorcee; 1907, an unlikely oracular flash
My mother's face took on a sudden expression of astonishment--possibly agony. She said "Your father is remarrying." I laughed. 'Impossible. He'd have told me. I had a letter from him only a few days ago..."
|HIS DEER WIFE: by Wayan; 1995/7/9, a dream of love in a parallel world.
I'm a slave, a scribe in the house of a Captain of the New Aztec Empire, when he brings home a wife...
CAUTION: SLAVE SOCIETY, SEX, SPOUSAL ABUSE/NEGLECT
|I DREAM OF... ME: by Linda Medley; 1990 or 1991, a dream-comic inspiring (and shaping) her life-work, Castle Waiting
I wake in a hobbit-hole. My love looks worried. What's wrong wiith me? A badger takes me to see wizard Sean Connery, who gives me feathers to eat, and I become...
|I THOUGHT HE LIKED ME: by Wayan; 1994/8/16, a dream of rejection... or worse.
I join the Seattle Tribal Council, which of course means marrying them all. The guy I'm to sleep with on our collective wedding night SEEMED to like me, till he pulls that practical joke...
|THE ILL-FORMED TALE: by Wayan; 160K, 1981/4/7, a wild dream anti-epic.
To reach the Peak of Happiness on the Isle of Dreams, I must pass four Perils--but they're all backwards...
CAUTION: RELIGIOUS NUTS, KNIVES, NUDE ALIENS, BACKWARD PLOT...
|JACKPOT: by Catshall; 2007/5/29. A dream on sex, art and change--a flood of change!
How did my bondage dream turn into a slot-machine jackpot? And what kind of change is pouring out?...
CAUTION: (CON)SENSUAL BONDAGE
|JUNG'S DENIAL: by Wayan; 1994/12/16, a journal extract on Jung.
Jung's dreams and interpretations show he's a thing-guy not a people-guy. All that architecture!...
|LION RIDER: by Jo Equinity; c. 2000?, an anticipatory consoling dream
I dreamed I was riding a lion. A few days later, when my husband suddenly left me, I recalled the dream and...
|LIZARD HUSBAND: by Xanthe, 1990/8/30; a nightmare marriage.
I visit the underworld court of the Lizard King, but I canít leave: he makes me Queen...
CAUTION: MARITAL RAPE (NON-GRAPHIC)
|LONG ROAD TO HEAVEN: by Edwin Muir; 1920, an epic hypnogogic shamanic initiation
Creatures in the primal sea touch my third eye, dragons cry their eyes out, I fight the Sphinx, and arrive at last in...
|THE MARRIAGE BOUNCER: by Wayan; 1995/6/5, an ironic dream prediction.
My sister Althea sets herself up as the judge of whether I can go to a wedding...
|THE MOUNTAIN, THE MAGPIE AND THE ROAD: dreamed 2013/3/26 by Rustling Leaves; an issue-baring nightmare
I visit a beautiful artificial mountain with loved ones--but my demons overwhelm me one by one.
CAUTION: SUICIDAL FEELINGS, BODY HATE/FATPHOBIA, IMPLIED RAPE
|MY PET MONSTER: by Katie Hofgard; 2005/5/17?, an erotic nightmare
I'm a sexy monster, but my sister sells me to the Devil as his bride...
CAUTION: SEXY CREATURE, ROTTEN SISTER
|MY THREE HUSBANDS: by Wayan; 1981/2/26 furry polygamy dream drawn as a 15p comic ten years later
I'm three women who marry a unicorn, a goat philosopher, and a magic cat. We start a commune, but the police quarantine us...
CAUTION: INTERSPECIES MARRIAGE, UNDERAGE SEX, FRAGMENTED DREAMER and BAD COPS
|NEWT WEDDING: by Emily Joy; spring 1995, 100k, a six-year-old's epic dream
Through wild jungles and over the Mattress Mountains, I lead a giant purple newt to love...
|NO TRAVELER RETURNS by Nancy Price; 1948/2/2, a predictive dream
I don't love my husband, so I'm stranded in the hotel between life & death, from which...
|OLDER AND YOUNGER: by 'Rasselon'; 2009/11/17, a dream of erotic deviousness
The older sorceress I'm in bed with plans to marry me off to a younger woman, but I distract her with my tongue...
CAUTION: BEDROOM HUMOR
|OTTER MEDICINE: by The-Fringe, a Crow healer, early 1850s; a shamanic dream with physical effects
I slept on an island in a scalding hot spring, praying for a dream. I got one--and woke up on the shore...
|QUADRUPLE WEDDING: by Wayan; 1995/5/15, a unifying dream.
Why'd I get sick from figure-sketching? Dream I'm at a mass wedding; do I marry a dwarf, a feral boy or a horse?
|RAPA ITI: by Marc Liblin, 1954-1960s, recurring childhood dreams teaching him to speak an unknown language
Only at age 33 did Marc Liblin at last meet someone who spoke his dream language. He married her, and moved to Rapa Iti, the only place in the world it's spoken...
|RASPUTIN CLAUS: by "Sally Anne", 1990s?; a warning dream
Bob is at the window asking to be let into my house. He is dressed as Santa Claus; in fact, I think he is...
CAUTION: MURDER ATTEMPT
|SILKY'S WEDDING: by Wayan; 1988/1/6, a dreamtale.
Silky, my often-animal anima, leads me into a strange pagan church where we get married at last...
|SUNLIGHT'S THE CURE: by Wayan; 1990/12/29, a dreamtale.
I find the cure for an alien plague, then visit the world it came from, to find it has a curious variant...
CAUTION: SEX CUSTOMS OF THE NEWT PEOPLE! MY COUSIN'S GAY WEDDING!
|THE THIEF OF DREAMS: by Wayan; 200K, an illustrated dream-play, 1996/11/29.
I was a mermaid trying to find Count Coyote's stolen dreams, so I could marry my human girlfriend...
CAUTION: GAY MARRIAGE, ANTI-FUNDAMENTALISM
|TITANIC NIGHTMARES: by J. C. Middleton; 1912/4/3 and 4/4, two lifesaving predictive dreams
I saw the Titanic go down and people struggling frantically in the water. After my second nightmare I told my wife. She urged me to...
|TWO GUITARS: by Marc Ian Barasch, c. 2000; a multileveled psychic dream
I dream my daughter's selling two unused guitars. They seemed symbolic until I told her the dream and learned...
|UNIVERSITY OF THE SIERRA: by Wayan; 1975/10/10, a pun-studded dream poem
Jealous of newlyweds, I grind my teeth to splinters. But the Great Ice did that to Sierra granite, and that turned out fine...
|A WIFE OR A GHOST: by Justin Masi; 2014? a surreal dream-painting-prose-poem on grief
My sister's fiancé Billy died a year ago. I didn't realize how deep the grief ran till I dreamed...
|WOLF EXOGAMY: by Wayan; 2010/12/19; a furry dating-advisory dream
A dream of human and wolf people intermarrying provokes both a sculpture and a slightly more wolfish attitude...
|YAKETY YAK: by Wayan; 1984/5/1, a dysfunctional dreamtale.
I'm at a family dinner. Killer Grampa, kid-hating Ma, larcenous Dad. Then a bum offers some advice...
|YUPPIE BREAKUP: by Wayan; 1991/5/22, a dream on values--or the lack thereof.
A yuppie idealist discovers her boyfriend's a cheerful opportunist, and they disentangle their lives...
CAUTION: SEX IN REVERSE
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